I Asked a Bunch of Women Over 50 About Their Sex Lives

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No one sums up the opposing attitudes of what constitutes a healthy, normal sex drive better than Woody Allen. But more on that later. What is less understood is the shifting matrix of biological, psychological and social factors that influence it. Testosterone is the key hormone controlling sex drive in men and women, but excessive work hours, lack of sleep, depleted energy levels or too much alcohol also have adverse impacts. So too do unresolved conflicts in the relationship or wider family. Then, factors such as stress and personality type can also put a dent in your drive, as well as medical conditions hypothyroidism, diabetes or depression and medications antidepressants and blood pressure treatments. And even if the desire and the arousal are present, personal, moral or religious reasons can put the kibosh on the whole shebang — assuming, of course, one has a consenting, reciprocal partner.

Allow a question about relationships and femininity for seniors? Her topic: balancing act and family. Next, as she matured, came one on self-discovery and her book on the challenges of staying married. Over 35 years, thousands of people have told me the a good number intimate details of their lives. Women have talked to me about cataclysmic the myth that after menopause you have low libido.

I recently turned 44 and the diminutive signs of perimenopause changes in my body are becoming increasingly obvious. After it came to menopause libido, I was prepared for a loss of libido rather than an increased activity in sex. Does menopause affect libido was something I had wondered. Certainly, but not in the ways I thought it would. The symptoms I was expecting are predictable enough. My menstrual cycles are changing and my hair is not growing back at the same time as quickly as in the past. After that my most intense sexual desire is no longer near ovulation, as it once was. Many of these are symptoms that we already associate along with perimenopause and peri-perimenopause the years ahead of perimenopause where we may have hormonal changes but they are almost barely discernible.