Sex IRL: 7 couples dish on what it's really like to have threesomes together
Threesomes hold something of a mythical allure in our collective sexual imagination. Adding an extra body to a sexual encounter is hot as hell for any number of reasons, not least of which is just the sheer visual and physical sensory overload that comes with it. Popular as the fantasy might be, research suggests the IRL experience is more of a mixed bag. In practice, threesomes are actually not that common. For monogamous couples, on the other hand, threesomes might be the single exception to the rule of exclusivity—and experimenting with it might involve some unexpected emotional turbulence along the way. The possibility was always on the table for us, but we pursued it more seriously during a period of non-monogamy. Our first one was with a woman she connected with on OKCupid who brought up the idea first, so there was little tension or awkwardness when we all met up for drinks and went back to our place for a one-night stand. Our second partner was a long-time friend we dated for a few months after the first hookup. In both cases, it was either explicitly or implicitly clear that everyone was interested in each other, and we eventually initiated it just by asking the third if she wanted to have sex.
Accordingly for these individuals, the experience along with someone of their same sex be able to be an affirmation of their sexuality as well as a right of passage. Read below to hear their stories. But, thinking back, I absolutely fantasized about [being] intimate with girls as a child and teenager. She gave me oral first, and I enjoyed it, but being close en route for her in that way felt constant more exhilarating than the sex itself. This is when I know but I truly am gay! By act, I mean figuring out what all person likes and dislikes, which toys we enjoy, what we feel affluent with. We just always liked execution out together, and the relationship in stage changed. I remember laying on the couch, and my partner then-friend would lay her head on my thighs, and I would rub her head—and I thought this was totally normal! After a few nights, Liz kissed me, and it felt shocking although totally normal.