Do long-term no-strings sex arrangements ever work?
In fourth grade, I got in trouble with my boyfriend because he found out I had another boyfriend. Throughout high school and college, some of my relationships overlapped, and some were purely dishonest. But society told me I had to be with one person at a time, with the goal of choosing one person forever. I would often fall into a cycle of trying to make that work but eventually letting temptation get the best of me, and failing both parties of the relationship ; especially my partner. I hurt people, and it felt so wrong.
Behavioral scientist-turned dating coach Logan Ury explains what matters more and less than you think in long-term relationships. The prom date vs. I call this pursuing The Prom Date. Someone who looks great in pictures, gives you a night full of fun, after that makes you look cool in abut of your friends. Do you actually want to marry the Prom Date? To worry if your partner is going to help you take anxiety of your aging parents? The answers have little bearing on whether you want to kiss the person before go out with them again. After that who wants to think about diarrhea on a first date!?