Dating a Man 16 Years Younger Forced Me to Grow Up
There's a work of maybe-satire that's been floating around the Internet for the last couple of weeks. You may have seen it. It's a piece in the University of Georgia student newspaper Red and Black titled How to find that perfect husband in college, by Amber Estes, purportedly the girl in the image below, purportedly a sophomore majoring in public relations. If this isn't satire it's unbelievable, but even if it is satire and the paper's EIC, for the record, thought that it clearly was there's a lot of wrong here. It's too easy to sit back and laugh at something like this while remaining blind to its more insidious elements. Because what Estes is describing, tongue in cheek or not, is a stereotype of a woman that a lot of people actually do believe exists. If you've been to college at any point in the last 50 years, you probably remember someone referring to that girl who was just there for her MRS degree, no? What's ultimately gross about those jokes and this piece is that they're just another vehicle for woman-bashing, albeit one cloaked in extreme ridiculousness or even in a kind of presumed feminism, aka, women shouldn't go to college to try to find husbands. But to mock women for, say, actively wanting to get married while on the other side of the coin, mocking them for not doing that presents a situation in which women are stereotyped and criticized for whatever they choose—and whatever they choose has to do with men in these and most examples.
I'm gonna be real RN: I allow zero doubt that you and I have both been labeled crazy as a result of someone we've dated in the ancient. It's simple. Dudes have a affinity to be, what I like en route for refer to as, crazy-making. But they choose not to acknowledge that after that, instead, label the ladies as bizarre even though they're the ones body unreasonable. Here, 16 things a be in charge of might do that cause a answer that makes a woman seem bat-shit cray. You meet, he feels a few type of way and wants en route for hang all the time, and after that all of a sudden, he flips the switch, and now you're body needy.
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